Men Who Make You Laugh

So many women say they want a man who makes them laugh. A lot of us get them – men are pretty funny after all.

But I’ve observed that something happens too often. Year after year of dating or marriage, they stop laughing. They start rolling their eyes. They start retorting in anger. They start reading into things and assuming bad intentions.

They’ve stopped laughing, and they look at him like it’s his fault.

I’m not casting stones; I understand couples deal with very real difficulties. But in these observations, I have made a resolution of my own, and I would pose it as a question to you:

Rather than searching for men who make us laugh, what if we resolved to be women who laugh?

Women who appreciate the humor when things go wrong. When the moment is ruined. When life is less than perfect.

What if we committed to being part of the joy of his life instead of requiring him to create the joy in ours?

What if we took this verse to heart?

“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Proverbs 17:22 ESV

A joyful heart is a fruit of the Spirit’s work in our lives. We should be known by it.

Men Who Make You Laugh

Photo by CHARLIE FOSTER via Unsplash

5 Comments Add yours

  1. Run Wright says:

    That is a fantastic thought. I had the same issue in my relationship until I realized things changed because I had changed.

    1. Such an important revelation for all of us ladies, I think! Thanks for your comment.

  2. Tiffany,

    Oh I love this.

    Everything I see in Christianity and in the best of psychology espouses this very focus about which you have written so eloquently.

    Focusing on yourself.

    Your piece reminds me of one of the my favorite lines about the godly woman: “Strength and dignity are her clothing, ****and she laughs at the time to come****.”
    – Proverbs 31:25

    – Tricia

  3. Martins says:

    So interesting how we see the world differently because of our temperaments. My wife is lovely and lively. She wished I could smile all the time. So sad, it took her some good time to understand that the desire is a tall order because I have a different but complementary temperament.

    Because I am human, I also have my own wish… I wish she could chase goals like me. So sad, it took me a very very long time to figure out that she is not built for that. Yeah. It took us time, but we both understand now that we are meant to complement one another and there is time for everything. Even if married to a comedian, you may not get his or her smile all the time. He or she will need time to prepare jokes. I bet, that’s a serious business.

    1. Thanks for sharing this perspective!

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