How To: Combat Loneliness in 8 Steps

Student by Nickolai Kashirin

“God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns. The nations rage, the kingdoms totter; he utters his voice, the earth melts.” Psalm 46:5-6

Lydia SellersBy Lydia Sellers

I transferred to a new university this fall and was hit with deep loneliness as I tried turning foreign territory into home. To say the least, it’s been a huge adjustment, but Psalm 46:5-6 says that God is faithful.

Here are 8 steps I’ve used and believe combat loneliness:

1) Listen to podcasts for Hillsong’s COLOUR Conference. Listening to the advice of godly women is so encouraging!

2) Find Christians in your community and seek out reasons to get to know them. This doesn’t always come easily, and it’s okay to keep in touch with family and old friends while you’re trying to form stability. But keep at it, and you will form valuable relationships.

3) Listen to praise music. It’s amazing what happens with a little praise. Psalm 100:4 says, “Enter His gates with thanksgiving, and His courts with praise!” Praising God during your trials means that you trust Him, and He says that “without faith it is impossible to please Him.” (Hebrews 11:6)

4) Don’t let work become your weekends. It’s easy to get caught up in your work when you don’t have many solid friendships. Use weekends to build relationships, have fun, and rest in God’s presence.

5) Speak God’s Word into your life. The Word of God has the power to bring nonexistent things into existence. He spoke the earth into being. Start speaking His blessings into your life and you will see their fruition.

6)  Help someone else. It’s so easy to become selfish when we’re feeling lonely. Helping someone else takes the attention off of you and gives you better perspective for your situation.

7) Be yourself. When surrounded by an unfamiliar environment, we sometimes forget to just do what we want to do. Anxiety is bewildering. It somehow convinces us that we are incapable of having any control over our circumstances. But, doing what you love to do tells anxiety to go away!

8) Seek the face of God and worship Him. When we’re afraid or lonely, worshiping is usually the last thing on our minds. However, it is the most powerful thing we could choose do. Paul and Silas worshiped after being beaten and thrown in jail. Then, God moved so mightily that all of the prison doors broke open and men were miraculously saved. . . Is it possible that God has you exactly where you’re supposed to be? That even though you feel beaten, bruised, and isolated in the dark dungeon of loneliness, He has far greater plans? Maybe, He has plans to save, to redeem, and to free the lost people around you. If we listen to His voice and believe, if we worship, He can release His power through us.

Photo Credit: Nickolai Kashirin via Flickr cc

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