TJ recently sent me this article to read from Relevant Magazine, and it’s on point, so I thought I’d share it with you. It deals with some of the pressures and general silliness the Christian community puts on dating. Take this excerpt, for instance; I bet you’ve had (or know someone who’s had) a similar experience:
I leaned in toward my friend to listen as she spoke. Her face was downcast and her eyes moist as she recounted the events of the previous week: “I’m not sure what happened, but he said we needed to take a break. He wants to pray about the relationship. He needs time to make sure he is following God’s will. He doesn’t want us to have any contact for a month.”
If you’ve been there or know someone who has, I recommend giving this article a perusal!
In the end, it comes down to this: dating relationships are just relationships. They aren’t perfect, and they should be full of grace as we each grow to be more like Christ. A few things that don’t sound like the heart of God for our relationships?
- Leading someone on.
- Bailing on them suddenly and without kindness.
- Blaming God for personal weaknesses or immaturity.
- Engaging in a relationship when God, trusted friends and/or parents have wisely objected.
- Making promises with no intention of keeping them.
- Pressuring someone to be perfect or to emulate an ideal version of your future spouse.
- Expressing commitment before giving the relationship time to deepen.
This is obviously not an exhaustive list, but you get the idea. Why do we think it’s ok to treat people we’re interested in dating differently than any other person we’d want to show the love of God? Read the article on Relevant’s website and let me know what you think!